You probably haven’t noticed it, but a few everyday phrases most parents use can make it harder for a baby to settle — and small changes in what you say can make calming them faster from the very beginning.
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When you’ve just had a baby, everything feels new — and often a little overwhelming. You’re learning feeding, sleep, soothing, routines… and at the same time you’re already beginning to teach your baby about the world through something you might not even notice:
The way you speak to them.
Many mums tell me they worry they’re “doing it wrong,” especially when their baby cries, won’t settle, or becomes upset for reasons they can’t understand. In those moments, most of us instinctively say things like “you’re okay,” “calm down,” or “it’s alright.” These phrases come from love. They’re what we heard growing up, and they feel comforting to say.
But in this episode, I gently explore a surprising idea — sometimes the words we naturally reach for can accidentally make it harder for a child to feel safe and understood.
From the very beginning of life, babies and toddlers experience emotions in a very real way, even before they have language. When their feelings are dismissed or rushed past, they don’t learn that the feeling disappears — they learn they must manage it alone. And that can quietly affect confidence, cooperation, and emotional security as they grow.
This episode isn’t about blame or guilt. It’s about awareness.
I’ll walk you through some of the most common phrases parents use every day and explain what your child may actually hear when those words are spoken. More importantly, I share simple alternatives you can begin using immediately — gentle wording that helps your baby feel heard, builds trust, and calms situations more quickly than correction alone.
You’ll also discover why babies and toddlers don’t misbehave to be difficult, why listening often comes after feeling understood, and how small changes in your responses can prevent bigger struggles later on.
If you are at the beginning of your parenting journey and want a calmer, more connected relationship with your child — without needing to be perfect — this episode will reassure you and give you practical ideas you can try today.
Because the way we speak to our children slowly becomes the voice they hear inside themselves.
And the good news is, tiny shifts in words can create powerful changes in connection.
What You Will Learn
- Why small changes in everyday language can help your baby feel emotionally secure.
- How acknowledging feelings can improve cooperation without raising your voice.
- What to say in difficult moments so your child learns confidence, not confusion.
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